Anyone going through a divorce is likely to feel stressed and emotionally downtrodden. However, this can be even more so when you are a member of the military. You may need to split your military retirement package or you may face being separated from your kids. On top of this might be the stress of your job itself. The important thing to do is to consider where you want to be on the other side of divorce and use that as your goal.
You should first think about what the most important thing is to you. Is it time with your kids? Is it your pension fund, or is it spousal support?
As a member of the military, time with your children will be very important to you because of your long deployments. Therefore fighting for child custody will likely be one of the most important factors. However frequent deployments may affect your ability to get full or partial custody.
When it comes to spousal support, your ex-partner may argue that your military lifestyle held them back from the career of their choice. Therefore they are likely to fight for increased spousal support to help them in their future.
Dividing the pension will most likely be considered martial property, depending on how long you were married. Therefore you might have to split this 50/50 with your spouse. All of these issues are of course open to negotiation, therefore you should do thorough research if you are seeking a military divorce to get the best result for you.
Source: Military, "Military Divorce: Dividing Children, Pay and Pensions," accessed Dec. 08, 2017