When two spouses are truly in love with one another, they and their relationship become a primary focus in their lives. Of course, every healthy spouse needs to have his or her own interests for a healthy relationship, but healthy couples need to engage in couple-centric activities to keep their marital bonds thriving. When these activities begin to wane, and the spouses don't do things as a "couple" anymore, it could be a dangerous sign for the relationship.
Here are a few examples of noncouple-centric activities that could distract spouses away from one another:
- Pouring all of one's energy into the children and family-related activities to the point that the couple becomes a child-rearing "business duo" rather than two people in love with each other.
- Becoming a workaholic who stays later and later at the office to the point of missing dinners, avoiding couple-related activities and minimizing time with the other half of the marriage.
- Seeking "emotional satisfaction" and "intimate friendships" outside the marriage, and having these relationships grow deeper and more intimate than the relationship between the spouses.
- Channeling more and more energy into external hobbies and interests outside the family like sports, clubs, studies and other activities in which both spouses don't participate.
If your marriage has reached the point where you and your spouse seem like you're living separate lives, or you're simply acting as "business partners" whose job is to raise children but who don't even enjoy one another's company anymore. You might want to get help from a family or relationship counselor. Alternatively, you might want to speak about your situation with an experienced divorce attorney who can help you prepare for the end of your marriage and evaluate your marital property rights.