Introducing the topic of divorce with your spouse may be one of the most difficult things you'll ever have to do. However, the way you do this is important as it will affect how easy your divorce is going to be – both emotionally and financially. The way you start the topic may depend on your spouse's current feelings about the relationship
For example, does your spouse expect you to talk about divorce? In most cases, your spouse will probably not be surprised that you're ready to call it quits on the relationship. Chances are that you have not been having an easy time in your marriage, and your spouse hopes that things would be better. In addition, there's a high probability that you beat your spouse to the punch. If this is the situation, you can open the discussion by gently bringing up some of your spouse's complaints and moving into your "solution" from there.
The timing of the talk is important. Choose a time and place when you'll have privacy away from others, and make sure that your children aren't present. Also, choose a time when you'll have an uninterrupted period in which to discuss the matter.
Finally, stay calm. Perhaps begin the talk by saying, "I have some difficult news to share with you." Remember that your spouse could erupt in anger, tears and other intense emotions. It's important that you don't engage in arguing – as tempting as it might be -- because this could hurt your divorce proceedings and interfere with your ability to reach an out of court settlement. This could become an especially awful headache in an already-complex, high-asset divorce process.
If you're ready to get a divorce and you'd like further advice on how to end your marriage peacefully, you can learn more about your legal rights and options by contacting our law firm.